First Prenatal Visit | Pregnancy After Loss

I haven't blogged in a while! So incase you're new here - hey! My name is Ariel and I am currently pregnant with baby #4. While this is my 4th pregnancy, this baby is currently my only living child. I've previously had two miscarriages and my son Onyx was stillborn in August 2018.


I've had other visits with my doctor this pregnancy, but today was my first official prenatal visit!

As can be expected after loss, I was really nervous going into the ultrasound. I had not seen the baby for about two weeks and that fact made me anxious about what could be going on in my uterus. Especially being that I've had a missed miscarriage before, I just really wanted to know what was going on. Thankfully, the baby is doing great!


Instead of having both an abdominal and a transvaginal, the tech just did a transvaginal ultrasound since my ultrasound appointment was considered a "follow up" to make sure baby was growing. We saw the baby right away and their little heart was flickering at 144 bpm. After a quick glimpse at the baby, the tech went on to check my ovaries. That is always the uncomfortable part of a transvaginal ultrasound (for me anyway).

After taking some pictures of my ovaries, the tech went back to the baby and did all the measurements. According to my last menstrual period, I'm 7 weeks and 4 days along but according to the ultrasound, I'm 7 weeks and 2 days. No concerns there though! It actually makes more sense for me to be 7+2 being that my cycles are longer than what the standard due date calculator goes by.

As the tech was doing the measurements, I noticed she kept looking at a spot near the gestational sac. It made me nervous but I waited to say something until she brought it up herself. Sure enough, she asked me if I've had any bleeding. I told her that I had a single incidence of spotting about a week ago and she didn't seem too concerned. But when the doctor came back to do his check, he again asked if I had any bleeding. I told him about the spotting and asked why they were asking. He briefly explained (and I do mean very briefly) that there was a small spot of fluid and that they don't know for sure if it's blood or not. I asked if it was a Subchorionic Hematoma (also called a Subchorionic Hemorrhage) and he looked at me like "how do you know this medical terminology" (answer: losing three babies makes you a professional researcher). The doctor ended up leaving the room without giving me a real answer though. He just said that all looked good.

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After the ultrasound appointment, I had the visit with my OB. She initially brought in an ultrasound machine but I let her know I already had one. She asked me if the baby was okay and I said yes, to which she breathed a sigh of relief, saying that earlier she had to tell a family their baby wasn't alive anymore and that she didn't know how she would be able to tell someone else that if my ultrasound wasn't okay.

This really made me reflect on how much providers also have to go through. While there are definitely some shitty doctors who I don't believe should be practicing medical care with pregnant people, I really do feel for those who have to be the ones to tell a family that their baby died. I'm not a doctor so I can't say what I'd do, but I feel like just as that moment stays with the family forever, I imagine it would stick with a doctor too.

After that conversation, I asked made sure to ask about the sac of fluid. The nurse checked the ultrasound notes and said that it wasn't mentioned, so it was likely tiny. My doctor said it could cause some spotting if it comes out, or my body could just absorb it and we wouldn't see it again. Of course, I'm hoping it just disappears without issue.


Then was all the basic first prenatal visit stuff like a breast exam and pelvic exam. I asked my doctor if she could do a check for Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) because I'm super prone to BV during pregnancy (which is pretty common). I've never had symptoms for it so I've only ever found out that I had BV after I lost each baby. While I've never been told that the BV contributed to my losses, that's always a thought in the back of my mind so I'm pretty concerned about developing it this pregnancy. Also, untreated BV can lead to other issues so I just wanted to make sure everything was fine.

After all of that, I had lots of blood drawn. A lot of this appointment brought me back to my pregnancy with Onyx but especially the blood tests part. I was poked and prodded SO much during his pregnancy and I really hope that doesn't have to happen this time around.

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Later in the day I got a phone call that I don't have BV but I do have a yeast infection - yay. My doctor let me know that yeast infections are also super common during pregnancy, but it's frustrating that, just like with BV, I don't have any symptoms so had I not asked for testing I'd probably never know. I've also never had a yeast infection before so the course of treatment kind of freaks me out (being that I want to make sure there's no harm to the baby, which from my understanding, the medicine is okay to use during pregnancy).

Now that I've told you all about my vagina, I guess that's it for this blog post! Stay tuned for more TMI updates in the future.


  1. You are such a beautiful, strong young lady. Keeping you in my prayers. I look forward to future updates! 💜

  2. Awe lovely to read about the updates!

  3. So glad to read that everything is going well for you so far. I've been following your instagram since my loss, and this is giving me hope <3

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