My 2018 in Review

I can't believe 2018 is about to be over. It was such a wild, wild year. Here's a little recap of these past 365 days! 


  • I started having some fertility testing done in January in hopes of finding a cause for my two miscarriages. 

  • We get the test results back from my HSG test. My doctor tells us that my left fallopian tube is completely blocked. After lots of questions and tests, we came to the conclusion that the cause of the blockage is unknown. Doctor officially diagnosed me with Secondary Infertility. We were told that IVF would be our best route to have a baby. 


  • March I was pretty much just completely depressed. There was no way we were ever going to be able to afford IVF so I tried to accept the idea of never being pregnant again. 

  • Baby #1's due date month. Baby September's due date hit me SO hard (I call them "September" because that's the month we lost them). 

Finding out about Onyx 
  • Mother's Day weekend I find out I'm pregnant with Onyx. We were shocked! As was my doctor.

This is one of my first ultrasounds with Onyx. They forgot to change the name though so it says someone elses name at the top LOL.
  • I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum - a horrible, horrible condition that I can only explain as severe morning sickness x100. 
  • Started weekly IV fluid replacement appts due to Hyperemesis. 
  • Made it to 10 weeks - the furthest I had ever gotten in a pregnancy at that point. 

Onyx's Pregnancy Announcement
  • I finally hit the 12-week mark! With stats telling us there was now a low risk of miscarriage, we finally decided to announce to extended family and friends.
  • I finally find a series of medications that allow me to function like a semi-normal human being. 
  • Due date of Baby #2 aka Baby November.
  • Toured birthing centers and decided on an amazing one that has everything I could ever want. 

Onyx's "First Time at the Polls"
  • I began to change my prenatal care over to a midwife at the birthing center but continue to see my OB as needed for Hyperemesis treatment. 
  • 18 weeks - belly popped! I carried Onyx super low but I was definitely visibly pregnant at this point. 
  • I made it to 20 weeks! I officially felt like Onyx was going to be our take home baby. I also decided to start taking belly photos and posted my first one on Instagram.
  • August 28 - Went into early labor.
  • August 29th - Admitted into the ER, diagnosed with an Incompetent Cervix and told our baby wasn't going to survive. Sent home that evening to wait.
  • August 30th - Water broke at 20w4d and Onyx arrived a little over an hour later. We finally named him "Onyx" that evening. 
  • August 31st - We announced Onyx's arrival on social media and had to walk out of the hospital without him. 


Photographed for the 4th Trimester Bodies Project

  • I was a walking zombie. Cried a lot. Depressed. Didn't know how I was going to make it another day. To make it worse, my milk came in 3 days postpartum.
  • Picked up Onyx's ashes from the funeral home. While it was sad to see how little was left of him, it felt good to finally have him with us again.
  • 1 year anniversary of first miscarriage. 
  • Participated in the 4th Trimester Bodies Project.
  • Had my postpartum appointment and got the placenta results of Placental Abruption being a "side effect" of my early labor rather than a cause. 
  • Decided to start a blog to document my journey of life after loss. I named it A Rainbow From Onyx and officially started referring to Onyx as our "rainbow baby" again. I also publicly announced my two miscarriages. 

First "Wave of Light" and introduced the Friends of Onyx Project


One of Onyx's public Ofrendas for Dia de los Muertos
  • Joined the Star Legacy Foundation online support group for bereaved parents. 
  • Joined #BabyLossHour on Twitter.
  • Made two public Ofrendas in honor of Onyx
  • 1 year anniversary of second miscarriage. 
  • Had consult with a Perinatologist to talk about the action plan for a future pregnancy. I didn't like what he had to say so we decided we would get second and third opinions before TTC. 
  • Started my Youtube channel
  • Got Onyx's Bear! Having his ashes in a bear instead of a makeshift urn made me sleep so much better. 

Onyx's "Rainbow Tree"

I don't know what 2019 will bring, but thank you for being on this journey with us!